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This article pisses me off.
Hahahahahaaha, the effing assumptions of this article! And the way it's even framed! What an effing crock.
First, my SO and I, we talk about everything, ALL the time. We are notoriously bad about sitting through movies and TV shows together because we gab at each other constantly. Secondly, from the get go, if we fight, we talk about it. It might not be right away (I have a very bad temper) but no more than a day goes by before one of us broaches the issues...because yanno, we're adults and we value our relationship. We have to work at this constantly. It is something we have tried to make habit, but we still have to work and we both work at being actively together, not just in the same room, although sometimes that is A-okay, too. And I love how the study shows that the man sleeps better with his woman at his side but the women doesn't and somehow, this better night's sleep is sooooo important for the dude that the lady needs to check her shit and learn to like it. Whatever. I sleep in a separate room because Ryan and I are together almost constantly. We share so many of the same thoughts and hobbies and experiences and anyone that knows us knows that it is almost impossible to get one without the other. So that little bit of alone time, with my own thoughts, in my own room? That's effing important to MY mental health and Ryan uses his space to be messy and play video games that I have no interest in playing or watching. We both need it. And we are touchy-feely couple and we do get cuddle time. I can't speak for couples who have kids, these actually might be legitimate issues. I don't know, but I don't plan on having kids, so again, the assumptions of this article just piss me off.
So in conclusion because my very stable, very good, long-lasting relationship (been together since high school, it's been ten years) does not meet a sort of heteronormative relationship standard, it's DOOMED, DOOMED I say. Despite all evidence to the contrary.
ETA: at least the commenters all seem to think my relationship is healthy and that the author of the article needs to GTFO. Not that I need validation from others or anything, but the looks of horror that I get when I tell people we sleep in separate rooms really, really make me mad. And Ryan's mom just found out we have no intention of "giving her grandkids" so things have been really rough around here. I was talking about maybe adopting if I want a child and the freak out from THAT is still burns, so yeah. Grumpy Katie is BITCHY NOW.
Hahahahahaaha, the effing assumptions of this article! And the way it's even framed! What an effing crock.
First, my SO and I, we talk about everything, ALL the time. We are notoriously bad about sitting through movies and TV shows together because we gab at each other constantly. Secondly, from the get go, if we fight, we talk about it. It might not be right away (I have a very bad temper) but no more than a day goes by before one of us broaches the issues...because yanno, we're adults and we value our relationship. We have to work at this constantly. It is something we have tried to make habit, but we still have to work and we both work at being actively together, not just in the same room, although sometimes that is A-okay, too. And I love how the study shows that the man sleeps better with his woman at his side but the women doesn't and somehow, this better night's sleep is sooooo important for the dude that the lady needs to check her shit and learn to like it. Whatever. I sleep in a separate room because Ryan and I are together almost constantly. We share so many of the same thoughts and hobbies and experiences and anyone that knows us knows that it is almost impossible to get one without the other. So that little bit of alone time, with my own thoughts, in my own room? That's effing important to MY mental health and Ryan uses his space to be messy and play video games that I have no interest in playing or watching. We both need it. And we are touchy-feely couple and we do get cuddle time. I can't speak for couples who have kids, these actually might be legitimate issues. I don't know, but I don't plan on having kids, so again, the assumptions of this article just piss me off.
So in conclusion because my very stable, very good, long-lasting relationship (been together since high school, it's been ten years) does not meet a sort of heteronormative relationship standard, it's DOOMED, DOOMED I say. Despite all evidence to the contrary.
ETA: at least the commenters all seem to think my relationship is healthy and that the author of the article needs to GTFO. Not that I need validation from others or anything, but the looks of horror that I get when I tell people we sleep in separate rooms really, really make me mad. And Ryan's mom just found out we have no intention of "giving her grandkids" so things have been really rough around here. I was talking about maybe adopting if I want a child and the freak out from THAT is still burns, so yeah. Grumpy Katie is BITCHY NOW.